Things to do to feel less lonely

There are things that can help if you're feeling lonely. Different things work for different people – so it might take a few tries to find something suitable. What matters is to do what works for you, even if it takes some trial and error to figure out what that is.

Talk about it

Lots of us prefer not to think of ourselves as ‘lonely’ but being upfront about your feelings – with yourself and with others – can make a big difference straight away.

Having a conversation about our feelings isn't always easy. For some of us, it wasn't the kind of thing that was talked about when we were younger, which can make it feel especially difficult. But it's never too late to tell someone how you're feeling, even if you've learned to cope with it over time.

You could try speaking to:

• a friend
• a family member
• a healthcare professional
• an organisation.

While the conversation can feel daunting, there are things you can control, such as when and where it happens. For example, you might prefer to go for a walk rather than sitting down to chat – or you might prefer to talk via text or a phone call.

There's more information about how talking can help here

Try clubs and activities

If you'd like to make new social connections, why not try a new activity, revisit an old hobby, or join a club? Lots of us want to meet like-minded people who share our interests, so there are all sorts of different activities on offer.

Being socially connected doesn't just help us feel less lonely – it's also great for our physical and mental health.

You could try something:

• active like walking, swimming or yoga
• artistic like a painting class or choir
• educational like a U3A learning group.

Find a support group

Sometimes, feelings of loneliness are associated with a particular experience we're going through – and that can make them harder to navigate. It might feel like other people don't understand the impact of your health condition, for example, or how you're feeling after losing a loved one.

There might be specialist support groups in your local area. Even if you're not sure you want to talk, just being in a space with people who are going through something similar could be reassuring.

Get connected

If you have difficulty getting out and about, or if socialising in person feels a little overwhelming at the moment, you could make more social connections online.

There are lots of spaces designed to bring people together. Social media sites like Facebook and social networking sites like Gransnet can be a great way to engage with others. You might even find that it's easier to talk about how you're feeling under an anonymous username.

While the internet can be a great tool for connecting with old and new friends, it's important to remember that not everyone is who they say they are online.

Find out more about making the most of the internet while keeping yourself safe

Get in touch with Age UK

When you're ready, we can help you – or someone you know – feel more connected. From friendship services to volunteering opportunities, there's all sorts to get involved with.

Friendship services

We offer various friendship services depending on what you're looking for:

• Our Telephone Friendship Service can match you with a volunteer for a free weekly chat on the phone. Whatever else happens in the week, it can be nice to know there's a friendly conversation to look forward to.
• The Silver Line Helpline is a free, confidential telephone service available 24 hours a day, 365 days a year. Whether you're feeling low, you need help accessing support, or you just fancy a chat, call to speak to a friendly team member.
• Many local Age UKs run befriending schemes. These normally involve a friendly chat on the phone or a volunteer popping in to see you at home.

Clubs and activities

Local Age UKs offer all sorts of clubs and activities, from coffee mornings and lunch clubs to exercise classes and quizzes. Trying something like this can be a great way of meeting new people in your community.

Find out more about what's on in your area

Volunteering

There are lots of ways to volunteer with us. As well as making an incredible difference, it can be the perfect opportunity to meet new people and feel more engaged with the local community.

You could volunteer:

• at your local Age UK. From helping at community lunches to supporting with social activities, there's plenty of different ways to get involved.
• at an Age UK charity shop. As well as an opportunity to learn new skills, it's an opportunity to be part of a friendly, supportive team that makes a difference in the local community.

Find out more about volunteering at your local Age UK

Find out more about volunteering in an Age UK charity shop